Date Them All
Being young while dating, females tend to stay “loyal” to one guy. In most cases, it isn’t to a guy that is being loyal to them or that they’re even exclusively dating. I myself have fallen victim to this time and time. As stated, some call it being loyal, I consider it being stupid. I have never been the type to have a team of guys that I date. Not only is my personality too big, but I also know that my memory is bad and I’d end up calling Brandon, Josh (These aren’t literal names of men I know, it's just an example). After dating someone that didn’t care to date just me and that wasn’t able to fill my every dating need, I realized it was time to date them all.
This is a disclaimer that by no means am I saying that you should be sexually active with every guy you date, but if you choose to- be safe and wrap it up!
What I am saying is, do you continuously find yourself reminding someone of your worth? Do you keep having to remind one person of the flowers you like in hopes he’ll buy them? Do you tell that same person your favorite things to eat and waiting to see if he’ll take you on a date? Why do you keep reminding someone you’re not exclusively dating that he needs to stop dating other people and be loyal to you? There isn’t a need for it when you have people wanting to fulfill each one of those needs. Stop waiting around for one person to come to their senses and take the person who wants to buy you flowers, or take you on a date, up on their offer.
Women get bad reputations and get labeled as being “hoes” when people see them dating multiple men-when guys get celebrated for being “players” when they’re messing with every female they chose to. In my honest opinion, most men are sabotaging women into thinking that they’re the only girl that they're dealing with and it makes us loyal to them. Or in other cases we self-sabotage ourselves and become the “pick me” girl for someone we know is messing with other females.
I believe that if we kept our options open and dated more than one man, we would end up less hurt at the end.The best rule in dating multiple people is to be completely honest and to inform them that they’re not the only person you are dating. It will either eliminate the lion kings or it’ll make them step up their game so that they can be the only one. Too often, I see women doing the most work in relationships…making dates, booking vacations, giving ‘just because’ gifts. Dating multiple men will give you the chance to be pursued in ways that you won’t believe.
Dating them all will never have you wondering “what is this?” because if you’re honest from the jump, there won’t be any room for confusion. You set the rules and they can either agree or not. Dating them all will allow you to focus more on yourself than focus on someone you’re chasing after. When playing the “pick-me girl” you have to repeatedly ask yourself “how can you impress him?How can I get him to spend more time with me?, or How can I make him focus on me more?” But when you don’t have to worry about these factors, the man that you’re meant to be with won’t have you asking yourself these questions.
In conclusion, dating them all will have you exploring your options and not just trying to date “your type”, sometimes our “type” is the exact reason that we’re single. Date someone who’s characteristic traits are familiar and non-familiar. Date outside of your race. Date someone you never said you would-take chances. Dating them all will have you meeting your husband.
If you aren’t already, this is confirmation that you need to start dating them all, sis.
